Over the years, I’ve heard this question many times. Questions from what is therapy to what happens in the room to how can it help me?
Psychotherapy or talk therapy can help you handle your feelings or emotions about problems or stressors from everyday life to life altering events. Regardless of the severity of the problem, therapy can help you develop a different perspective or give you the additional support you need to work through it and move on. Some people go to therapy when they feel “stuck” and want to refocus or they want to learn better problem solving techniques or tools to help overcome anxiety, depression and addiction issues. Sometimes you just want someone who is not part of your everyday life to help guide and support you with interpersonal growth and relationship issues.
When you come in for your first session, we will spend some time getting to know each other. I believe the relationship between the therapist and client is one of the most important components to having a positive experience with therapy. In the first session, I try to begin the process of building trust in order to make you feel comfortable sharing your worries and concerns. I spend a lot of time asking questions and listening. I want to learn what the world is like from your eyes so we can work together to explore the meaning you give to life. We will talk about yours goals for therapy – short term or long term – and what has or hasn’t worked for you in the past. At the end of the first session, we will come up with a plan as to how frequently you want to come for therapy. Your schedule, finances and responsibilities will likely influence this decision. This first session will take approximately 60-75 minutes with the next sessions being scheduled for 50 minutes.
In subsequent sessions, depending on your goals and your interests, you might have “homework.” If you like to write, we may utilize writing to process something you are struggling with. If you have difficulties addressing conflict, we may role play a situation in preparation for the “real conversation.” I may ask you to keep a journal to track your cravings for alcohol, tobacco, drugs or food so we can pinpoint if there are any triggers and the best way to intervene when it happens.
“I want you to know but I don’t want to tell you.” — Unknown
Some of you may be asking, how will I ever get past my own reservations about exposing myself, my true self and feelings, with a stranger. Most people seem to have an easier time than you think. A licensed therapist should be able to create a confidential and safe space that allows you to open up and talk about whatever is on your mind. It’s not uncommon for it to take a little time to “warm up” but for you to talk freely once you get started. Remember the therapist is on your side, a partner in your journey, there to guide you and support you to a happier, more fulfilled life.